I’m a great believer in the energy of rip and stick. Just on the edge of the subconscious, there’s something powerful that we can draw upon to give counsel about our preferences, choices, and direction, whether for employment, recreation, or lifestyle decisions.
The following exercise is one that I have used with people approaching change in their life (and that is all of us), and especially as they approach retirement from work, or release from demanding family responsibilities.
I’ve shared this with friends in one-to-few workshops, where we have released tender and sometimes painful stories, safely and confidingly, leading to increased confidence going forward.
I’ve also offered a version of it in a museum garden setting, as part of a community programme to promote wellbeing in the over-50s. The participants found it relaxing, playful, and of surprisingly deep impact. In a workshopping group, it can promote a celebration of diversity and individuality, while helping to reinforce the commonality of “being human”.
A friend reports having done a similar exercise on a novel-writing workshop. Initially she was very resistant to doing “cut and glue with pictures”, when she had expected serious wordcraft and editing tuition. Yet despite her skepticism she was amazed just how effective it was to juxtapose moods, lay down textures, and select themes – graphically. Wordiness can impose obstacles to flow. Once these dissolve, plot, settings and dialogue are released.
The rest of my life
You are invited to spend the next hour or so discovering and recovering your sense of wellbeing, in a confidential setting which we all agree upon.
This is not a competition! Please do not criticise, analyse or pass comment on other people’s work without their express permission. Full stop!
If you want to share your ideas with others, there can be the opportunity later. If you want to stay private, we’ll respect this.
Take fifteen minutes to get yourself comfortable with a random pile of magazines and leaflets – but not to read! Give yourself permission to let rip!
Literally race through, tearing out any images that particularly attract you and that resonate with the theme “the rest of my life” in whatever way you choose to interpret it. (If you are stuck, you may like to focus on the theme of “what makes me want to dance’”, or “how I like to rest” or “embracing the whole of me” – or whatever.)
Now take a board and a glue stick/ brush and arrange any (or all) of the rip-outs in a way that appeals to you, and reflects how you feel just now…
Add bits and bobs, text, colours, threads in a way that pleases. Wander round the rooms and/or garden for inspiration, and/or add items from any of the “treasure chests”.
Look at your collage board, consider what it tells you, and as much as you can bring a sense of allowing, acceptance and joy to the experience.
In what ways does your board reflect the “five ways to wellbeing” described on the separate sheet?
Remember to take the memory board home, refer to it, add to it, and change things. You could do one for each season, or on significant anniversaries.
Would you like to share a similar activity, perhaps with friends?
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Sources and resources
‘The Artist’s Way’, Cameron, Julia (1995) Pan Books p 127
‘Five ways to wellbeing’, New Economics Foundation, 2008
© Kathy Labrum McVittie 2016, 2018, 2021
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